I'm soon to be 32 ! It's a big number for me. I never thought I would be affected by it but slowly the throughts creep in. Do I dress age-appropriate ? Should I start on a anti-wrinkle cream regimen ? Do I act my age ? I often feel the need to learn how carry out a "mature" conversation. Not sure what it is but I should start paying attention. I joke around way too much ! and laugh too much ! Ah, who am I kidding, I will never never be able to do that. It's not me. I like who I am and if I'm a 32 stuck at 25, so be it people, so be it !
Side note: brought some coconut water from Urban Fare, expensive like hell and not all what it crack up to be. Buy those young coconut (the actual fruit) from the asian market, it tastes way better and cheaper also.
Is "s3xting" cheating ?
Really ? do we really have to ask ? emotional betrayal is just as bad as physical. Anytime you're doing something you don't want your spouse to know about is cheating !!!
As I watch the news about the scandalous s3xting and tweeting of congressman Anthony Weiner, I can only shake my head, another politician dabbing into extramarital affair. Being a man in his position, I assume he educated and smart, which makes me wonder - being a public figure - what makes he think that this secret will never come out ??? especially over social media sites ???? What's wrong with him ? this is the stupidest thing he can do to jepordize his marriage and his career. And the fact that he didn't owe up to it - despite proof of pictures and list of messages - tarnishes his image even more. It shows his characters.
So I heard, apparently there are lots of people having affair on facebook ! Technology, being accessible at the tip of our finger, makes it easy to have virtual affair. I guess being anonymous, hiding behind a screen name, and the excitement of doing it in secret > thrill people to be unfaithful to their spouse/boyfriend/girldfriend. And what surprised me is some people argue that it's ok because it virtual, it's not "real" !!!! who are you kidding ? That is so sad. What skew values and morals these people have. Anytime you connect to a person romantically other than your spouse - online or in real life - constitute as cheating. Online is emotional cheating ! If it's not cheating why wouldn't you show your partner the messages and images you sent out ?
I took this from an online news "Technology can tap our deepest emotions, including sexual passion, even when our consciences dictate that we should resist. It is like virtual cocaine or Ecstasy—two recreational drugs that artificially lower the inhibitions of many users." We are the only one who has control over our thoughts and actions. If what you're about to do hurt your loved one, turn away. By confronting the issues, bring them out to light, you have gained yourself self-respect while protecting your treasured relationship.
As I watch the news about the scandalous s3xting and tweeting of congressman Anthony Weiner, I can only shake my head, another politician dabbing into extramarital affair. Being a man in his position, I assume he educated and smart, which makes me wonder - being a public figure - what makes he think that this secret will never come out ??? especially over social media sites ???? What's wrong with him ? this is the stupidest thing he can do to jepordize his marriage and his career. And the fact that he didn't owe up to it - despite proof of pictures and list of messages - tarnishes his image even more. It shows his characters.
So I heard, apparently there are lots of people having affair on facebook ! Technology, being accessible at the tip of our finger, makes it easy to have virtual affair. I guess being anonymous, hiding behind a screen name, and the excitement of doing it in secret > thrill people to be unfaithful to their spouse/boyfriend/girldfriend. And what surprised me is some people argue that it's ok because it virtual, it's not "real" !!!! who are you kidding ? That is so sad. What skew values and morals these people have. Anytime you connect to a person romantically other than your spouse - online or in real life - constitute as cheating. Online is emotional cheating ! If it's not cheating why wouldn't you show your partner the messages and images you sent out ?
I took this from an online news "Technology can tap our deepest emotions, including sexual passion, even when our consciences dictate that we should resist. It is like virtual cocaine or Ecstasy—two recreational drugs that artificially lower the inhibitions of many users." We are the only one who has control over our thoughts and actions. If what you're about to do hurt your loved one, turn away. By confronting the issues, bring them out to light, you have gained yourself self-respect while protecting your treasured relationship.
Buy what we don't need with money we don't have
'We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like"
I couldn't help but chuckle when I read this ! It rang so true for me - except for the money part because I don't have the gut to go into debt buying THINGS !!! If I don't have a family and a mortgage, YES YES YES I would spend every dollar I make and will have outstanding balances on all of my credit cards.
So what's up with that ? the need to obtain fancy things that are overpriced to show off to people we don't know or care for ? as shopaholic on the way to recovering :) I can tell you - IMAGE my friend, it's all about the IMAGE ! WHY ? because many of us are insecure, have low self esteem, and we want people to envy us, we want to be above the norm (to make us feel better) ! it's the "elite" group we're aiming to have a membership with. And for many of us girls, it's about the bag we carry on our arm. We want to throw out designer names like we have them our whole lives. When we get together with other girls we want to talk about Louis or Dolce, and some other names we barely can pronounced. Sure our clothes can be off the sales rack but our handbag shall not. We're living for the NOW, isn't life about seize the moment ? And for some of us, that moment is about looking good right now and ... pay later !
Many of us female are ROMANTIC SHOPPER, meaning we care more about emotional satisfaction and appeal . And luxury handbag gives us that "warm fuzzy special feeling" when other girls to stare at our bag and envy how nice it sit on the crook of our arm or over our shoulder. Simply put, girls want to look good for other girls. There's that natural competitiveness in all women, many of us do it subconsciously while there are those who set out to conquer, to get all the attentions. It seems like many of us are suffering with the case of not-measuring-up and not-good enough. BUT to who ? and to what standards ? MTV ? Gossip Girls ??? what ????????????
The Transunion websited stated that the average Canadian debt is around $26 000 per person ! TWENTY SIX THOUSAND DOLLARS sans mortgage. That is a scary number don't you agreed ? Sure freaks me out. I just hope those people has job to pay it back or else they will have to go on income assistant and before we know it, our taxes will be increased to help them !
Owning designer items in itself is not a bad thing. I do appreciate the quality and craftmanship of them. I think it's the intention of acquiring it is something you should concern yourself with. If you don't have the discretionary income, it doesn't make sense at all to go into debt for the "bling", no matter how nice it is or how good it makes you feel ! It's not smart to take out your saving or working longer hours (sacrifice time to rest, time for family/friends) for them. You need to dig down deep to see what the issue is. What are you buying to covering up ? insecurity ? emptiness ? lack of confident ? anger ? the need to feel important ? need to be in the "in" crowd ? At the end of the day, we're responsible for our action, and in this case, we are the one paying the bill !
Say, if you do have money to blow, share the wealth ! there are many who are less fortunate that just hope to have have full stomach at the end of each day. When you're blessed with money it's meant for you to help others. Blessings are meant to flow so pass it on !
I couldn't help but chuckle when I read this ! It rang so true for me - except for the money part because I don't have the gut to go into debt buying THINGS !!! If I don't have a family and a mortgage, YES YES YES I would spend every dollar I make and will have outstanding balances on all of my credit cards.
So what's up with that ? the need to obtain fancy things that are overpriced to show off to people we don't know or care for ? as shopaholic on the way to recovering :) I can tell you - IMAGE my friend, it's all about the IMAGE ! WHY ? because many of us are insecure, have low self esteem, and we want people to envy us, we want to be above the norm (to make us feel better) ! it's the "elite" group we're aiming to have a membership with. And for many of us girls, it's about the bag we carry on our arm. We want to throw out designer names like we have them our whole lives. When we get together with other girls we want to talk about Louis or Dolce, and some other names we barely can pronounced. Sure our clothes can be off the sales rack but our handbag shall not. We're living for the NOW, isn't life about seize the moment ? And for some of us, that moment is about looking good right now and ... pay later !
Many of us female are ROMANTIC SHOPPER, meaning we care more about emotional satisfaction and appeal . And luxury handbag gives us that "warm fuzzy special feeling" when other girls to stare at our bag and envy how nice it sit on the crook of our arm or over our shoulder. Simply put, girls want to look good for other girls. There's that natural competitiveness in all women, many of us do it subconsciously while there are those who set out to conquer, to get all the attentions. It seems like many of us are suffering with the case of not-measuring-up and not-good enough. BUT to who ? and to what standards ? MTV ? Gossip Girls ??? what ????????????
The Transunion websited stated that the average Canadian debt is around $26 000 per person ! TWENTY SIX THOUSAND DOLLARS sans mortgage. That is a scary number don't you agreed ? Sure freaks me out. I just hope those people has job to pay it back or else they will have to go on income assistant and before we know it, our taxes will be increased to help them !
Owning designer items in itself is not a bad thing. I do appreciate the quality and craftmanship of them. I think it's the intention of acquiring it is something you should concern yourself with. If you don't have the discretionary income, it doesn't make sense at all to go into debt for the "bling", no matter how nice it is or how good it makes you feel ! It's not smart to take out your saving or working longer hours (sacrifice time to rest, time for family/friends) for them. You need to dig down deep to see what the issue is. What are you buying to covering up ? insecurity ? emptiness ? lack of confident ? anger ? the need to feel important ? need to be in the "in" crowd ? At the end of the day, we're responsible for our action, and in this case, we are the one paying the bill !
Say, if you do have money to blow, share the wealth ! there are many who are less fortunate that just hope to have have full stomach at the end of each day. When you're blessed with money it's meant for you to help others. Blessings are meant to flow so pass it on !
What cha looking for ? mate ?
A week ago my pastor was sharing about Godly Marriage. It was a very interesting sermon for many of our church goers since only few are married while many are single or at the dating stage. But because the sermon focuses on the characters of man and women - which we all can relate ! we were given some insights into each others' world.
Notes I took on this topic:
What is a marriage: Union of two people becoming one
> A friend once told me how her husband and her divide up everything. What is his is his and her is hers. They buy their own electronics, pieces of furniture that they like, divide up their weekly grocery bill, dinner recipe, etc. They were a couple outside but inside they're like 2 roomates living together. Needless to say, they ended up in a divorce. She's now happily re-married and in a real marriage this time, where they not only sharing their life together, but everything else, and working towards common goals. Marriage works when two people agreed to let the other person be a part of their life. When you get married, everything you do affects the other person and vice versa. If you're not considerate, not willing to sacrifice, and still have the "it's my life" mentality, it won't work !
Four qualities a marriage need to have:
- Commitment (permanent promise to each other)
- Accomodation (willingnes to help, pitch in)
- Self sacrifice (lay aside personal desire for the sake of the other)
- Forgiveness (marriage is impossible without forgiveness, when we forgive is when we're most like God)
Understanding your mate:
Men are: linear thinker (speak what they're thinking), goal oriented, focused
Men need: work/job and rest from it
Men need in a spouse: a partner, someone to participate in the goal of their life, share adventure with
Danger from a spouse: ridicule his goal, wants to CHANGE them (yeah, women often wants to do this !)
> I always tell my girlfriends "don't settle" and most importantly, don't marry a person hoping to change them ! That's the worse thing you can do. You should marry a person for their qualities, their values, and their potentials.
Women are: multi tasker, into details, like to network, nesting, care about feeling, don't share what they really think
Women need: feeling secure
Women need in a spouse: someone who cherish and value them, someone they know they cannot loose their love
Danger from a spouse: making her feel unimportant, neglected
-- Real love is always a matter of CHOICE. Love and emotions come and go. You have to choose everyday to stay committed. Our heart doesn't stop to love but we choose to be exclusive to that one person.
-- In a committed relationship, you will become an expert in loving your partner that only you know how. Our culture said that to love many is to be a great lover but to love ONE person for a long time is what really make us a great lover.
Men cheat physically and women emotionally - both are equally destructive
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Marriage is hard work as is, it's even harder if you're a Christian and your partner isn't. I have seen many uneven "yoking" marriages around me fall apart and it's always devastating to learn that things are not working out because of their differences.
What some Christian aren't aware of is that when you followed Christ, you're life is constantly changing as your relationship with Him deepen. It takes another Christian to understand and support you on this faith journey. If your partner isn't a Christian this is when issues will arise - biggest problem to start with is tithing. They won't understand why you're giving money away each month. Then it comes to, why do I have to attend church on sunday ? you go since it's your religion". When you have kids, more issues will come in the form of, do we raise our kids and christian or not, do I take them to church on Sunday, do we pray before we eat, do we pray when things are going bad ? It's hard for a marriage to reach it's fulll potentials when your goals are different, when you're pulling in different directions.
Marriage is not always happy go lucky ! it's a garden that needs constant work and weeding. It's hard work but the results are wonderfully satisfying. As a Christian we trust that the Lord is watching over us and is leading us to where we need to be. When things go sour and the road isn't that easy to travel on, Jesus is there to comfort and walk through it with us. Having a Christian partner makes that all a bit easy to take each step on that road. They will be the physical present that God use to comfort us as we pray together and lean on each other for encouragement and strength. It's hard to trust that God has control of things if our partner doesn't want be on that same boat as us. Issues will arise and unless one give in (you denied your Christian faith or they become a Christian), it will be hard for your marriage to be what you both hope it to be.
I think it's very important for married couple to do all they can to defend and protect their marriage. You're a team now, it's you two against the world. Built walls around your marriage and don't share your secrets ! People who knows me know I'm a very open person, I don't like lying and hiding things about me. I'm ME all the time. But despite my openess about my life as an individual, my marriage is another story ! my husband and I have many many many secrets that only us two know. I love it because it's another exclusive thing we have with each other. Collin is not only my husband but also my best friend, whom I share all my deepest thoughts with. And it's nobody's business to ever tread into this sacred ground !
Another thing I think is important is > surround yourself with friends who support your marriage. Friends who love you and the person you choose to love. Who, when you're in doubt, will remind you how much the other person loves you. There's nothing worse than a friend who nit pick at your marriage and making disencouraging comments. A friend loves and happy for you at all time ! They want to see you succeed in life, in attaining your goals, in your marriage, and in your family.
Notes I took on this topic:
What is a marriage: Union of two people becoming one
> A friend once told me how her husband and her divide up everything. What is his is his and her is hers. They buy their own electronics, pieces of furniture that they like, divide up their weekly grocery bill, dinner recipe, etc. They were a couple outside but inside they're like 2 roomates living together. Needless to say, they ended up in a divorce. She's now happily re-married and in a real marriage this time, where they not only sharing their life together, but everything else, and working towards common goals. Marriage works when two people agreed to let the other person be a part of their life. When you get married, everything you do affects the other person and vice versa. If you're not considerate, not willing to sacrifice, and still have the "it's my life" mentality, it won't work !
Four qualities a marriage need to have:
- Commitment (permanent promise to each other)
- Accomodation (willingnes to help, pitch in)
- Self sacrifice (lay aside personal desire for the sake of the other)
- Forgiveness (marriage is impossible without forgiveness, when we forgive is when we're most like God)
Understanding your mate:
Men are: linear thinker (speak what they're thinking), goal oriented, focused
Men need: work/job and rest from it
Men need in a spouse: a partner, someone to participate in the goal of their life, share adventure with
Danger from a spouse: ridicule his goal, wants to CHANGE them (yeah, women often wants to do this !)
> I always tell my girlfriends "don't settle" and most importantly, don't marry a person hoping to change them ! That's the worse thing you can do. You should marry a person for their qualities, their values, and their potentials.
Women are: multi tasker, into details, like to network, nesting, care about feeling, don't share what they really think
Women need: feeling secure
Women need in a spouse: someone who cherish and value them, someone they know they cannot loose their love
Danger from a spouse: making her feel unimportant, neglected
-- Real love is always a matter of CHOICE. Love and emotions come and go. You have to choose everyday to stay committed. Our heart doesn't stop to love but we choose to be exclusive to that one person.
-- In a committed relationship, you will become an expert in loving your partner that only you know how. Our culture said that to love many is to be a great lover but to love ONE person for a long time is what really make us a great lover.
Men cheat physically and women emotionally - both are equally destructive
-----------------------------
Marriage is hard work as is, it's even harder if you're a Christian and your partner isn't. I have seen many uneven "yoking" marriages around me fall apart and it's always devastating to learn that things are not working out because of their differences.
What some Christian aren't aware of is that when you followed Christ, you're life is constantly changing as your relationship with Him deepen. It takes another Christian to understand and support you on this faith journey. If your partner isn't a Christian this is when issues will arise - biggest problem to start with is tithing. They won't understand why you're giving money away each month. Then it comes to, why do I have to attend church on sunday ? you go since it's your religion". When you have kids, more issues will come in the form of, do we raise our kids and christian or not, do I take them to church on Sunday, do we pray before we eat, do we pray when things are going bad ? It's hard for a marriage to reach it's fulll potentials when your goals are different, when you're pulling in different directions.
Marriage is not always happy go lucky ! it's a garden that needs constant work and weeding. It's hard work but the results are wonderfully satisfying. As a Christian we trust that the Lord is watching over us and is leading us to where we need to be. When things go sour and the road isn't that easy to travel on, Jesus is there to comfort and walk through it with us. Having a Christian partner makes that all a bit easy to take each step on that road. They will be the physical present that God use to comfort us as we pray together and lean on each other for encouragement and strength. It's hard to trust that God has control of things if our partner doesn't want be on that same boat as us. Issues will arise and unless one give in (you denied your Christian faith or they become a Christian), it will be hard for your marriage to be what you both hope it to be.
I think it's very important for married couple to do all they can to defend and protect their marriage. You're a team now, it's you two against the world. Built walls around your marriage and don't share your secrets ! People who knows me know I'm a very open person, I don't like lying and hiding things about me. I'm ME all the time. But despite my openess about my life as an individual, my marriage is another story ! my husband and I have many many many secrets that only us two know. I love it because it's another exclusive thing we have with each other. Collin is not only my husband but also my best friend, whom I share all my deepest thoughts with. And it's nobody's business to ever tread into this sacred ground !
Another thing I think is important is > surround yourself with friends who support your marriage. Friends who love you and the person you choose to love. Who, when you're in doubt, will remind you how much the other person loves you. There's nothing worse than a friend who nit pick at your marriage and making disencouraging comments. A friend loves and happy for you at all time ! They want to see you succeed in life, in attaining your goals, in your marriage, and in your family.
Case of the missing socks
I have many many mismatched pairs of socks. I often ponder where the sock's other partner go ? My house isn't so big and I have a clean-freak husband who turns the house upside down every 2 weeks for a throrough cleaning. And never ever have I find the other matching sock. Where are they hiding ? I take them off when I get ready for bed so it can only be MIA between my bedroom, the washroom and the laundry room. Everytime I unload laundry from the dryer I find at least 1 single sock, laying sadly all by itself at the bottom of the basket. It's such a mystery and I'm sure I'm not the only one questioning their disappearance.
I google up "where do missing socks go" and the first reasult highlighted my question and added this "...Once you find out the truth you can never go back" < That my friend, freaks the heck out of me. What can't I go back to ? wearing socks ? I was terrified by it so I skipped onto a better search result. And well, after many reads, it seems there's no such answer for the case of the missing socks. We my friend, will be always be on the hunt for them ! I shall make it my mission to find my rose printed sock tonight. And tomorrow the rainbow one, then the polka dots...one by one, I will hunt it down !
I google up "where do missing socks go" and the first reasult highlighted my question and added this "...Once you find out the truth you can never go back" < That my friend, freaks the heck out of me. What can't I go back to ? wearing socks ? I was terrified by it so I skipped onto a better search result. And well, after many reads, it seems there's no such answer for the case of the missing socks. We my friend, will be always be on the hunt for them ! I shall make it my mission to find my rose printed sock tonight. And tomorrow the rainbow one, then the polka dots...one by one, I will hunt it down !
Hubby's new toy
Today C went out to look at shaver for his beard and came home with a MERCEDES. Yes, a car, not a toy car, but a real one. I really like it but one thing he forgot do to is TELL ME ! It was so out of character for him that I couldn't help but find it very funny. After we had our laugh about it I told him not to do it again. He told me, "Trace, I always make decission with you. I told you before I left that I will be passing by a dealer if I get a deal I will buy it and you said "sure, whatever!" ! I vaguely remember it !!! oh well, it's a nice car that I will be driving and will surely scratch it !!! I warned him already :-)
how to hide your facebook like and comment on fan page and group page
You just posted a comment and within seconds, everyone on your friend list and friends of friends and of friends all know what you posted !!! You frantically try to delete it on your profile BUT it's still on the newsfeed. You remove it from the fan page BUT it's still on the newsfeed !!! If newsfeed was a person you would be strangling it back and forth, yelling, REMOVE REMOVE my comment post NOW !
Facebook newsfeed doesn't waste any chance it has to public your "comment" !
We all have a guilty pleasure that well, we don't want everyone to know. Were it be a movie star or a book or a show that you like to be a fan of, there's no need for the ever-quick-to-announce facebook newsfeed to broadcast everything !!! I've tinkled around with it and finally found something that works > at least FOR ME & for now ! I tested it and my LIKE and comment weren't published on my newsfeed !!! YAY ! Let's hope FB doesn't go changing on us again.
Here's how to do it after you log in:
1. Click on Account on your FB page
2. Go down to Privacy Settings and click on it
3. On the screen like the one below, click on View Settings
4. On the View Settings page, scroll to the bottom and locate the See your likes, activities and other settings:
5. Click on the little LOCK image to change the setting (in the above picture mine is set at Only Me, but yours is probably at Everyone or Friends Only)
6. Scroll down to and click on Custom - Edit
THAT'S ALL THERE IS TO IT ! BEFORE YOU GO ON A COMMENT-POSTING SPREE, TRY IT OUT ON A SAFE PAGE FIRST ! Why ? because your other settings might cause this not to work. I can't pin point it down to what but if it doens't work for you, leave me a comment below and I'll see if I can help.
Let me know if it works or not for you ok !
Facebook newsfeed doesn't waste any chance it has to public your "comment" !
We all have a guilty pleasure that well, we don't want everyone to know. Were it be a movie star or a book or a show that you like to be a fan of, there's no need for the ever-quick-to-announce facebook newsfeed to broadcast everything !!! I've tinkled around with it and finally found something that works > at least FOR ME & for now ! I tested it and my LIKE and comment weren't published on my newsfeed !!! YAY ! Let's hope FB doesn't go changing on us again.
Here's how to do it after you log in:
1. Click on Account on your FB page
2. Go down to Privacy Settings and click on it
3. On the screen like the one below, click on View Settings
5. Click on the little LOCK image to change the setting (in the above picture mine is set at Only Me, but yours is probably at Everyone or Friends Only)
6. Scroll down to and click on Custom - Edit
7. Click on the toolbar next to These people and select Only Me
THAT'S ALL THERE IS TO IT ! BEFORE YOU GO ON A COMMENT-POSTING SPREE, TRY IT OUT ON A SAFE PAGE FIRST ! Why ? because your other settings might cause this not to work. I can't pin point it down to what but if it doens't work for you, leave me a comment below and I'll see if I can help.
Let me know if it works or not for you ok !
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