Soon after the inital attraction, you will reach the "get to know" phrase. Here is your chance to really get to know what you're getting yourself into !!! ask a lot of questions. If anything makes you feel uncomfortable or iffy, address it right away. Show your interest but don't give too much away. Desperation is a big turn off. When hiring, I never consider those that over sells themselves and willing to do anything to get the job. I know they're at a dead end and would take whatever come their way > and to me that means temporary and I am looking for long term commitment. So even if you're at the end of your rope, don't show your desperation ! Know your value and your worth. Never ever ever settle. You'll be wasting your precious time and risk loosing out on the perfect opportunity when it comes your way. All because you're not available to take it.Easy goals aren't soul satisfying. We tend to not treasure those achievements. It's not the best way to go at it but for many of us, it's encoded in our brain. My expensive shoes gets better care and treatment than my cheapy ones. Reason for my behaviour is, I can replace the cheap one anytime ! they are a dime a dozen. Same goes for career and relationship, I think if we can easy get both, we would take them for granted, and chances are, we can easily leave them too. Set your standards and don't take anything less. Don't jump at the first job offer that comes your way. Take time to think it over. If you're interested in someone then you got to put effort in getting to know them. But don't give all of yourself away too easily and too soon either. Leave room for them to get to know you, to wonder about you, to guess, to imagine. No one likes people who play "hard to get", but no one likes an "easy to get" person either ! balance, moderation is key :D Just be yourself, no games, no motives !
The dating phrase is the evaluation period where we get personal ! After the first few weeks or months of the "honeymoon" period where everything is "wonderful" ! you will soon see and discover new things about the position/the person :D Perhaps our job is nothing like the descriptions, some items were definitely left out. The person you're interested in is actually not who you thought they would be. You had your first blow out, your first disagreement. Ugly skeletons are one by one slowly coming out of the closet. Some will surprise you and some you're prepared for because you've been paying attentions to all the signs. Take time to analyze and ask yourself "Do you see/want them in your future ?" Do you see them backing you up, partnering up with you or leaving you to fend for your self. Don't make excuses, don't try to drown out your inner intuition, be honest. You owe it to yourself that much. If there're potentials, give it a shot and run away with it. If there isn't, walk away before you get comfortable, then settle and will be that forever unhappy employee or unhappy wife/husband.
Lastly, you can always change job and yes, can change partner too, but to me, relationship is way way more important than a 9-5 job :-) because it requires a lot more time and effort, heart and soul ! you can turn off work after you get home but you carry your love with you in your waking and in your sleeping. A relationship that gone wrong can cause many heartaches, requires many bandages and a heck of time to heal from. And time is an expensive EXPENSIVE commodity, know it's value and spend/invest it wisely !
